What choosing the wrong man can cost
Ten questions worth answering before you give anyone more of your life.
Your time
How many years can you afford to find out?
About 1 in 4 men scored Above Average in our Partner Assessments. The other 3 in 4 scored Average or Below.
Think about the last time you knew. How long did you stay?
The knowing and the leaving are rarely the same day. Every month between them is yours.
What does it cost when a marriage doesn't last?
About 1 in 5 first marriages ends in separation or divorce within 5 years, and more than 1 in 3 within 10.
Your children
What are your children learning about love by watching you?
Children learn what love looks like from the adults closest to them. They are always watching.
What does a child carry out of a home that isn't safe or stable?
The CDC classifies witnessing violence at home, and instability from a parent's separation, as adverse childhood experiences, and links them to chronic disease, depression and other lifelong health problems. If you already have children, the standard you set for who comes into their lives matters most of all.
Your well-being
What does it do to you when you're never sure he's telling the truth?
Trust and honesty was the top priority in our Partner Assessments: more than half (111 of 208) chose it as what matters most to them right now.
How many of your non-negotiables have you already given up?
Standards are easy to bend one small yes at a time. Write them down before you're tired, then score him against them.
Your money
Whose name is on the lease, the loan and the credit card?
A relationship is also a financial partnership. Shared rent, shared debt and shared plans are hard to untangle if it ends.
What could those years have built for you?
Time and money spent on the wrong person are time and money not spent on your own goals.
Your safety
Do you feel safe?
If the answer is ever no, that matters more than any score. In the CDC's most recent national survey, more than 1 in 3 women (34.0%) reported experiencing sexual violence, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. If you are in danger, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233.
None of this is a prediction about you or any one man. It is what staying in the wrong relationship can cost. You decide what happens next.
Score him now. Free. 60 seconds. Only you see the result.Statistics are from the sources below and from hundreds of Is He Worthy Partner Assessments. Educational only, not professional advice.