Your Complete Guide
How Is He Worthy Works
Built on 80+ years of proven military assessment methodology — adapted to help you make clear, unemotional decisions about the most important relationship of your life.
"Save lives, protect children, prevent financial devastation, and reduce physical and emotional pain for all families affected by failed relationships."
— Our Mission Statement
Watch: 90-Second Overview
Everything you need to know before you begin.
Step One
Create Your Peace of Mind List
Before you can assess anyone, you need to know what you actually require. Your Peace of Mind (POM) List is your personal relationship standard — the qualities, values, and non-negotiables every partner must be measured against. Think of it as your constitution. Once it's written, it never lies to you.
How to Weight Your Items (Priority 1–5)
Absolute Must
This is non-negotiable. No exceptions.
Cannot Compromise
Hard to move forward without this.
Very Important
Strongly desired — but there's room to grow.
Important
Meaningful, but you can help him develop this.
Nice to Have
A bonus — not a requirement.
Your Priority 5s are sacred. They are your non-negotiables — the attributes that protect you from repeating painful patterns. Honor them always.
Pro Tip: Use the Bulk Upload
Don't start from scratch. On your POM List page, tap "Bulk Add" to get a curated set of relationship attributes you can instantly adopt and customize. Most members build a meaningful list in under 5 minutes.
POM List → Bulk Add → Select attributes → Set your priorities → Done.
How To Use Your POM List
Step Two
Score a Partner
With your POM List as your foundation, put it to work. Choose the man you're evaluating and score him against each item — honestly, from 1 (not at all) to 5 (completely). This turns gut feelings into clear, trackable data you can't rationalize away later.
How Scoring Works (1–5)
Completely meets this
He consistently demonstrates this attribute.
Somewhat meets this
Inconsistent — be honest about the pattern.
Not at all
This need is going unmet. Don't minimize it.
Your Priority 5s carry the most weight. If he scores below a 3 on your non-negotiables, the data is telling you something — listen to it before your heart convinces you otherwise.
How To Score a Partner
Step Three
Run a Partner Assessment
With your POM List as your foundation, you're ready to assess. The W.O.R.T.H.Y. Assessment scores a partner across six key dimensions — transforming gut feelings into clear, trackable data. You can run an assessment at any time: on a first date, three months in, or after a difficult conversation.
Winning
Is he working toward goals? Does he bring winning energy to your life?
Obstacle
How does he handle adversity, conflict, and challenges?
Recoverability
Can he bounce back? Does he grow through difficulty?
Torture
Are there behaviors you're tolerating that silently erode you?
Heart
Does he lead with kindness, empathy, and genuine care for you?
Your People
Do those who love you most see what you see — or are they worried?
Above Average
This could be something worth nurturing. Stay clear-eyed and consistent.
Average
Proceed with honest reflection. Average rarely becomes extraordinary on its own.
Below Average
Your data is speaking. Honor what it's telling you — this is your protection.
How To Run an Assessment
Go Deeper
Maximizing Your Experience
Is He Worthy isn't a one-time quiz — it's an ongoing relationship intelligence system. The more consistently you use it, the more powerful it becomes.
My Progress
Track your journey over time
See how your assessments evolve. Are scores improving? Are patterns emerging? Your progress data is the mirror that shows you what your heart sometimes hides.
Daily Reflection
Check in with yourself — daily
A quick daily mood tracker that captures how you're feeling in your relationship. Over weeks and months, these micro-moments reveal macro-truths you might have missed.
Where It All Began
The Book Behind the Platform
Is He Worthy was born from a book — a direct, no-nonsense guide to protecting yourself from relationships that cost you more than they give. The methodology, the mission, and the heart behind this platform all trace back to those pages. If you want to go deeper into the philosophy, the book is where to start.
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